How do gay men feel about women
Do gay men ever acquire sex with women?
Dear Reader,
You ask a really complicated question! To acknowledge your question plainly with the information that you’ve shared, it’s likely that some gay men perform have sexual relationships with women to hide their true orientation, due to fear of coming out. Indeed, there are homosexual men who feel pressured to mask their sexuality because of cultural, familial, religious, or personal values that being gay is wrong. It's also feasible that someone who identifies as gay may desire to have sex with someone of another gender. However, "performance" when it comes to sex, which may be interpreted as arousal and possibly ejaculation, aren't determined exclusively by attraction. Unfortunately, while you've asked a great question, investigate in this area tends to be outdated, and lacking in some areas, like in the difference between feelings of arousal compared with sexual culture. Much of what is known comes from surveys or anecdotal evidence, which may not be as scientific as a explore study, but still can offer great perspective on the topic.
Sexually speaking, an erection or becoming aroused isn’t a measure of a person's sexual orientation. People
Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies
At a recent presentation, I asked all of the male lover male students in the room to raise their hand if in the past week they touched a woman’s body without her consent.
After a moment of hesitation, all of the hands of the gay men in the room went up.
I then asked the same homosexual men to raise their hand if in the past week they offered a woman unsolicited suggestions about how to “improve” her body or her fashion.
Once again, after a moment of hesitation, all of the hands in the room went up.
These questions came after a brief exploration of queer men’s relationship to American fashion and women’s bodies. That dialogue included knowing that gay men in the United States are often hailed as the experts of women’s fashion and by proxy women’s bodies.
In addition to this there is a dominant logic that suggests that because gay men own no conscious desire to be sexually intimate with women, our uninvited touching and groping (physical assault) is benign.
These attitudes contain led many gay men to feel curiously content critiquing and touching women’s bodies at whim.
What’s unusual about this is not the male sense of ownership to women’s bo
&#;Some of the worst misogyny I&#;ve experienced has arrive from gay men. It can feel almost more gross than it does from straight men. It&#;s like, you&#;re not even trying to express sexual interest in me, you&#;re just asserting your superiority over my body just because you&#;re a man—you&#;re just doing it because you can.&#;
Victoria Sin is a queer woman living in London and a female drag queen. When Sin recently appeared in a Broadly documentary about drag artistry, some lgbtq+ men on Facebook angrily accused her of &#;appropriation&#; of gay culture and drag. &#;What am I appropriating? It&#;s pure misogyny and so stupid on many levels,&#; she says.
The topic of misogyny among gay men is a difficult one to broach. In my experience, men either simply refuse to believe the phenomenon exists, or the conversation is quickly derailed (&#;yeah, but what about homophobic women?&#;).
I&#;m bisexual and genderqueer. When I presented as male, I also experienced misogyny from both straight and gay men on the basis of my clear femininity. At a party attended mostly by same-sex attracted men who worked in political consultancy, I was asked,&#;What do you execute, darling? Something fun fancy a fashion deg
I recently spoke with Bonnie Kaye, author of Unbent Wives, Shattered Lives: Stories of Women with Queer Husbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wives Converse Show on BlogTalkRadio. Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first living with and attempting to love a male lover husband and then helping other women in the same mis-marriage situation. (“Mis-marriage” is Bonnie’s term for “mistake in marriage.” Other people sometimes refer to these relationships using the term “mixed marriage.”)
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Because I know countless queer men who were once married to straight women, with varying degrees of short and longer-term happiness and misery, I wanted to discuss this topic, and I wanted to do so from the straight wives’ perspective. Who better to speak with about this than Bonnie Kaye? Our discussion was wide-ranging, beginning with her own marriage to a gay man and ongoing to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually becoming a rock for other women in similar situations.
In this post, I have presented part one of this discussion, the story of Bonnie’s marriage and breakup. I will post part two, the aftermath, in a few weeks.
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