Gay and women sex
I recently spoke with Bonnie Kaye, author of Direct Wives, Shattered Lives: Stories of Women with Queer Husbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wives Communicate Show on BlogTalkRadio. Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first living with and attempting to love a male lover husband and then helping other women in the same mis-marriage situation. (“Mis-marriage” is Bonnie’s term for “mistake in marriage.” Other people sometimes refer to these relationships using the term “mixed marriage.”)
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Because I know countless homosexual men who were once married to straight women, with varying degrees of short and longer-term happiness and misery, I wanted to discuss this topic, and I wanted to do so from the straight wives’ perspective. Who better to speak with about this than Bonnie Kaye? Our discussion was wide-ranging, beginning with her own marriage to a gay man and developing to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually becoming a rock for other women in similar situations.
In this post, I have presented part one of this discussion, the story of Bonnie’s marriage and breakup. I will post part two, the aftermath, in a few weeks.
Bonnie Photo by Dr. Les from Flickr CC / https://flic.kr/p/79QPnN Sexuality and inequality research by Eliza Brown and Paula England | February 29, 2016 If you know which sexual orientation people detect with, how much does that tell you about whether they have sex with women, men, or both? How similar or different are the links between identity and action for women and men? Building on our publish from last June, “Women’s sexual orientation and sexual behavior: How well accomplish they match?” we update the analysis of women to include more recent data and add an analysis of data on men. We’re using data from the 2002, 2006-2010, and 2011-2013 National Survey of Family Growth for men and women 15 to 44 years of age. Detailed tables, along with how we generated our measures, are in the Appendix at the end of this post. Here we focus on a scant specific questions: How common is it for heterosexual men and women to hold sex with same-sex sexual partners? Unsurprisingly, almost none of the men identifying as heterosexual have had only male sexual partners and only You know how tons of straight men savor watching lesbian porn and nobody bats an eye? The same doesn’t sound to apply to women who watch gay porn. This was made abundantly clear earlier this year when TikTok user @kirahofficial posted a video with with the text: “When I realized gay male p**n turns me on more than straight p**n.” It was a seemingly benevolent observation (and typical TikTok fodder) that turned controversial when a rush of gay men accused Kirah of fetishizing the homosexual male community. “At first the responses were agreeing with what I said, but after about four hours, they got really nasty,” she tells InsideHook. “I was really surprised that it blew up because I’d told my leading friend that I monitor gay [male] porn and she didn’t think much of it,” she explains. “So when I posted it [on TikTok] I was expecting the equal response since I mind society was moving more toward [sex]-positivity than slut-shaming.” Kirah’s video went viral and currently hosts over 35,000 comments and an alarming number of death threats. “I really dislike the truth that this TikTok user got called out in such a negati My Husband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has caused an uproar. The negative attention is unfortunate because this could own been a show that highlighted mixed-orientation couples and how these couples can actually make their relationships work. Why do some people become so outspoken and judgmental about marriages with one straight and one gay spouse? There are several reasons. These marriages raise concerns about infidelity. They bring out people’s judgments about what marriage should or should not be. In particular, they bring out people’s opinions about monogamy. Finally, these relationships suggest to some people “reparative therapy,” the unethical and impossible claim that a person can be changed from gay to straight. The men in this television program aren’t claiming to be ex-gay nor that they can change their sexual orientation (at least not on the show). They inform they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wives accept this. People seem to get up in arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men. In our culture, we identify ourselves via a sexual-attraction binary: gay or straight. This is severely limiting .
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